Showing posts with label Celibacy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Celibacy. Show all posts

Monday, April 18, 2022

Celibacy as solidarity with the poor

CELIBACY AND HOLY ORDER VIII 

As I continue trying to understand what it means to be a celibate deacon, I read as widely as I can.


I have written more than seven blog posts on the topic, but recently I came upon a unique insight in some writings of Father Ron Rolheiser, OMI. He connects celibacy to solidarity with the poor.
To sleep alone is to be poor. To sleep alone is to be stigmatized. To sleep alone is to be outside the norm for human intimacy and to feel acutely the sting of that. 
When Jesus went to bed alone, he was in solidarity with that pain, in solidarity with the poor. A vow of celibacy, whatever its negatives, also does that for a person, it puts him or her into a privileged solidarity with a special kind of poverty, the loneliness of those who sleep alone, not because they want to, but because circumstance denies them from enjoying one of the deepest human experiences that there is, sexual consummation.
Initially, I thought this a bit strange, even considering his examples.
Anyone who is because of unwanted circumstance (physical unattractiveness, emotional instability, advanced age, geographical separation, frigidity or uptightness, bad history, or simple bad luck) effectively blocked from enjoying sexual consummation is a victim of a most painful poverty.
But a few weeks ago, I began to see what this might mean.

The pastor has me do the final interview of couples before they get married. He had interviewed them at the beginning of the marriage preparation process. Then their formation consists of twelve themes, which are given in their respective communities. After this,  I interview them and two witnesses – mostly to assure that there are no obstacles or impediments.

Some of the couples have lived together, often for years, and have children. Yet there are a good number who have lived separately.

Some of the questions are quite personal, but others are quite straightforward: “Do you know and accept that Catholic marriage is for life?” I sometimes add, to emphasize the importance of this, “Will you still be faithful, if you have to feed and bathe your spouse who is confined to bed and cannot work?”

One young man noted that he had been taking care of his spouse when she confined to bed after a difficult birth. 

I was amazed.

Here is “love in action,” a great example for us celibates. And Rolheiser’s remarks began to make sense.

Love, even celibate love, makes sense when we continue to love and pour ourselves out to other, when sexual relations are not possible or when we have chosen to abstain.

Many people find themselves in situations in which they are unable to express their love with sexual intimacy. They sleep alone. Some because of health issues. 

But I also think of the women whose husbands have left for the US or for one of the large cities in Honduras, looking for work to sustain the family. Their poverty had provoked a separation – perhaps for years. She is alone.

I think of the women whose husbands have been murdered or have been jailed. I recall a woman whose companion was murdered. She had a miscarriage a while before and was pregnant at the time of his death.

I think of the women who have fled violence and war, especially now as thousands flee the war in Ukraine.

There are more situations of people who are forced to sleep alone.

But I return to the young man who cared for his spouse, sleeping alone because of her sickness, but obviously loving and caring for her and for their children.
  • Does my celibacy have that self-giving love? 
  • Does my celibacy open me to love and open my heart to those who find themselves alone? 
  • Does my celibacy open me to a solitude that bears fruit in solidarity? 
  • Does my celibacy move me to go out from my comfort zones to love and accompany those who yearn for love? 

  • Is my celibacy open to self-giving love? 
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Quotes are from Fr. Ron Rolheiser’s columns, “In Exile,” and can be found on page 72 of Ronald Rolheiser: Essential Spiritual Writings (Modern Spiritual Masters), published by Orbis Books.

Monday, April 12, 2021

Celibacy and happiness

CELIBACY AND HOLY ORDERS VII

For at least three years, one passage of Psalm 16 has challenged me in trying to live as a celibate diaconate: 
I say to the Lord, “You are my Lord. My happiness lies in you alone.” 

I know that I seek happiness in many things, many experiences. But I do long to be able to pray this verse with my whole heart.
A celibate deacon may experience many temptations to seek happiness, or pleasure, in what is not really fulfilling. There are, obviously, sexual temptations of many sorts, from masturbation to sexual fantasy to viewing pornography – but these leave us empty. 

There is also the more subtle temptation to seek our happiness in what we do as deacons, longing for success or looking for adulation for our ministry.

There is also the temptation to power, to use our ministry not to serve others but to enhance our power and “authority” in the church and the world. This is the temptation to a clericalism that offers honors and positions as substitutes for humble unknown service. 

So, the critical question for us is found in Psalm 4,
“What can bring us happiness?” many say.”
Reading Ronald Rolheiser’s The Fire Within: Desire, Sexuality, Longing, and God, I begun to see the question of happiness in a different light.

No longer are these passages merely an indictment of my failure to put my trust in God alone. They reveal our nature, our destiny, who we are – persons who cannot find our true happiness in the limited. As Saint Augustine wrote in Confessions, “You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our hearts are restless until they rest in you.”

We are barren and cannot find fulness in this life:
“Barrenness describes the universal human condition in its incapacity to be generative in the way it would like and the vacuum and frustration this leaves inside lives. No matter if we have biological children of our own or not, we still all find ourselves barren in that none of us are finished here on earth.” (p. 43)
We long for intimacy, for fulfillment. But we need to recognize that the ultimate intimacy is with God. Henri Nouwen puts it well in Clowning in Rome: Reflections on Solitude, Celibacy. Prayer, and Contemplation:
“…all human intimacy finds its deepest meaning and fulfillment when it is experienced and lived as a participation in the intimacy of God alone. The celibate man or woman proclaims this hope by recognizing, receiving, and living the gift of celibacy.” (p. 37).
Those who are married experience this in one way, remembering that nothing limited can fulfill our longing for the infinite, for God. But we celibates are called to live out our essential emptiness in another way, as a sign for others. As Nouwen wrote:
“Celibates live out a holy emptiness by not marrying, by not trying to build for themselves a house or a fortune, by not trying to wield as much influence as possible, and by not filling their lives with events, people, or creations for which they will be remembered. The hope is that by their ‘empty’ lives, God will be more readily recognized as the source of all human life and activity. “(p. 47).
This means that we need to develop a prayer life that nurtures our intimacy with God, opens us to a healthy intimacy with others, and put all our life in perspective. The we may be able to pray these words of Psalm 4:
You have put into my heart a greater joy than they have from abundance of grain and new wine.
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A future post will consider celibacy, intimacy, and friendship.

Previous posts on celibacy

“The Joy of Love for Celibates,” October 22, 2015

“The Promise of Celibacy,” July 3, 2016 

“Celibacy and Holy Orders I: Some misunderstandings of the celibate deacon,” January 13, 2020

“Celibacy and Holy Orders II: Celibacy and Latin Rite Catholic priests: an exception for the Amazon? Why permanent deacons probably aren’t enough?” January 16, 2020

“Celibacy and Holy Orders III: The married deacon’s challenge to the celibate deacons,” Janaury 17, 2020.

“Celibacy and Holy Orders IV: Two new books for celibate clerics,” January 31, 2020

"Celibacy and Holy Orders V: The undivided heart of the married and celibate deacon, " May 26, 2020 https://hermanojuancito.blogspot.com/2020/05/celibacy-and-holy-orders-v.html

"Celibacy and Holy Orders VI: The Celibate Deacon as Older Brother," November 3, 2020 




Tuesday, November 03, 2020

CELIBACY AND THE DEACON VI

6. The celibate deacon as older brother 

 Recently I watched a You Tube video in which a celibate permanent deacon in Spain spoke about his vocation. He carefully distinguished the vocation of a permanent deacon from the vocation to the priesthood. 

In the course of the video he spoke about the spiritual fatherhood of the deacon. I have problems with this. 

The permanent deacon who is a father of a family can show the church how to be a father, bringing his fatherhood to his ministry, inspiring other fathers to see their vocation in the raising of their children, with their wives. He can show a way of being father that is not dominating, that derives its authority from his paternal love and not from the title of father. He, together with his wife, can guide their children in the ways of faith, showing them how to integrate the life of faith in the family.

But the celibate deacon, who enters the diaconate as a single person, does not manifest this charism. He does not have paternal authority over children, youth, or adults. He is not there every day to guide others in their daily lives.

I think a better image for the celibate permanent deacon is that of the older brother.

I write this reluctantly since I am an only child and so have not experienced having an older brother or being an older brother, but, observing other families, I dare to make a few observations. If my remarks are too idealistic, please help me to make them more realistic. 

As I see it, a true older brother looks out after his younger siblings, sometime protecting them, sometimes giving them advice, sometimes warning them. He looks after their well-being, not as one who can command them (if he is not domineering or a bully), but as one who has had some experience of life and wants to share it with a sister or brother. 
 
A true older brother encourages his siblings, urging them on when they are faced with difficulties, encouraging them as they succeed, opening up their eyes to possibilities that they may have never dreamed of, pointing out pitfalls as they grow up.

A true older brother should be an example, an icon of what it means to be a child in a family and a child of God, how to live as brothers and sisters, children of the heavenly Father.

As a celibate deacon I can encourage my siblings, other members of the People of God, to live lives worthy of their calling (Ephesians 4:1) as I try to live my life.

Those who are not clergy are called to live their lives in the world, sanctifying the world in their lives and in their jobs. 

Most permanent deacons have jobs outside the Church, which I think is critical. They, like the laity, are called to sanctify the world in their jobs. 

Yet, as deacons, they come to the altar as persons who mostly live and work outside the walls of the church. They bring the world of work to the world of prayer, making visible the connection between the altar and the world of work. 

They can then speak to their co-workers as “siblings,” showing them a way to sanctify the world in their work. 

They do not come to the altar or the pulpit to order someone to live their faith in a particular way. They come to show in their lives how to live as a child of God in the world. They come to offer the advice of an older brother, intent on the good of the family (the People of God) and the fullness of life of their sisters and brothers.

As I think about this, I recall the words of Pope Saint Paul VI and Pope Saint John Paul II, describing the deacon as “the animator,” “a driving force” of diaconia in the church.

Can we celibate permanent deacons be the animators, the older brothers who accompany our sisters and brothers in our vocation as Church to serve God and to serve the world?

There are my initial thoughts. Obviously, I need to reflect more on this and to look at Vatican II’s “Decree on the Laity” as well as Pope St. John Paul II’s apostolic exhortation Christifideles laici. But these words might spur us to develop a deeper spirituality of the celibate permanent deacon.

Tuesday, May 26, 2020

Celibacy and Holy Orders V

5. The undivided heart of the married and celibate deacon

As a celibate permanent deacon, I continually struggle to be faithful to my promise of celibacy. It’s not easy; I fail and sin, but I seek God’s forgiveness and strength to be a sign of Christ the Servant.

To help me in my personal growth as well as to better understand celibacy, I recently read Donald Cozzens’ Freeing Celibacy. The author is clearly open to married priests in the Latin rite of the Catholic Church. (Interestingly, he writes nothing here about married deacons.) But he writes very positively about what he calls “charismatic celibacy.” I’ll return to this and a few other points in future posts.


A few months ago I wrote about what the celibate deacon can learn from married deacons. Cozzens ’critique of arguments often given for celibacy have helped me to think more deeply about both married and celibate deacons. Though he was writing about mandatory celibacy for priests, his arguments may help us lay aside some approaches to celibacy that need to be carefully critiqued.

CELIBACY FOR THE KINGDOM OF GOD

In the ordination rite, the bishop asks the celibate candidates:

…are you resolved, as a sign of your interior dedication to Christ, to remain celibate for the sake of the kingdom and in lifelong service to God and mankind? [Italics mine]

I was very happy to be able to say, “Si, quiero. – Yes. I wish so.”

For me, the Kingdom of God is central to Jesus’s ministry. He came and preached that “The Kingdom has come near” (Mathew 3:2). As I understand this, Jesus came and revealed the Kingdom in his life and his being. I believe that we are called to be signs of that Kingdom in all we do – both as individuals and as the church.

But Cozzens pointedly asks, “Does [the argument of celibacy for the kingdom] not reveal an outdated dualistic theological anthropology?... Is there not an implicit assertion that married priests are less committed to the kingdom of heaven? Finally, are not all sacramental marriages oriented to the kingdom of heaven? Finally, are not all Christians, because of their baptismal dignity, committed to the kingdom of heaven?” (Cozzens, 98)

We are all called to live the Kingdom in our lives. The centrality of the Kingdom is not an argument for celibacy – but it might help us clear up what should be the focus of celibacy: living for the Kingdom and living the Kingdom.

AN UNDIVIDED HEART

Cozzens also mentions that one argument given for obligatory celibacy is that celibacy is a sign of an undivided heart. The celibate can concentrate on love of God.

I think that the argument that celibacy is a way for the cleric to be solely fixed on God may be one of the most problematic arguments.

Canon 277.1 of the Canon Law of the Church states: “Celibacy is a special gift of God by which sacred ministers can more easily remain close to Christ with an undivided heart, and can dedicate themselves more freely to the service of God and their neighbor.”

In the Rite of ordination, the bishop notes that” “By this consecration you will adhere more easily to Christ with an undivided heart; you will be more freely at the service of God and mankind, and you will be more untrammeled in the ministry of Christian conversion and rebirth.”

I’m not sure that celibacy makes it easier to remain close to Christ, but it does remind us of the need to adhere to Christ with all our heart. I’ll return to this in a later post, reflecting on Psalm 16:2: “My happiness lies in You alone,” from the perspective of a celibate deacon.

But still I wonder if the “undivided heart” argument is sometimes interpreted in dualistic, Manichean ways. To repeat what Cozzens writes about “celibacy for the Kingdom”: 
Who can attest that the heart of the married deacon (or the married priests of the Eastern Rites or the married priests who were ministers before becoming Catholic)? And who can say that a married person’s heart is divided?
I think that what is at stake here is a question of spirituality.

I would suggest that married people’s hearts might also be undivided because they have an incarnational spirituality which moves them to see and respond to God present in their spouse.

When asked by a scholar of the Law, Jesus identified the greatest commandment: 
“‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” (Matthew 22: 37-40)
These commandment of love are not seen in competition, nor merely as complementary. They are, I believe, essentially united. They are intimately linked as John says in his first letter (1 John 4: 20-21) “Whoever does not love ta brother he has seen cannot love God he hasn’t see…. “Whoever loves God must also love his brother.”

Maybe, then, instead of contrasting the celibate and the married person, we need to look at another metaphor. Rather than speak about the undivided heart, might it be better to speak about the heart big enough to love, to love God above all and one’s neighbor as oneself.

The married deacon makes it clear that love in the family, married love, is a place where God is made known and where God’s love is made real. Daily he is challenged to love his family and in that way let the love of God be made known in the world.

The celibate deacon can claim to love God – but is his love really love or is it a form of self-satisfying individualism? That’s a question I often ask myself.

What is needed is a deeper understanding of celibacy, especially for the celibate deacon. What is the charism of celibacy? More on this in later posts.

CELIBACY IS NOT MOSTLY FUNCTIONAL

One way to interpret the argument of the undivided heart is to postulate that the cleric has more time for all that is demanded in the service of God. Some suggest that celibacy helps clerics “more freely dedicate themselves to the service of God and humankind?” (Cozzens, 99). But I think that is a merely functional argument.

But, unless there is a deep spirituality of celibate love, the celibate cleric may not easily resist the temptations of seeking control, being a free agent. He might resent the demands and the needs of others instead of seeing then as opportunities for him to let the love of God shine through him. Without the demands of caring for a spouse and a family, he could easily take his desires as absolutes and close himself on himself. This may happen in marriages, but the temptation is strong to consider oneself the center of the universe or, at the very least, the parish. I know.

CELIBACY AS A WAY OF LOVE AND INTIMACY

The challenge is to understand celibacy as a way of love and intimacy. Donal Dorr in a 2004 article on celibacy in The Furrow (55 [3]) noted that “All of us are called to be loving people.” (p. 138)

But how to we live this love? That is a crucial question and a challenge for all followers of Christ. 

In addition, it's important to recognize that celibate love must involve intimacy. As Cozzens writes:

“Celibacy is not an alternative to intimacy, but a different — often a more difficult — way of achieving intimacy. Anyone who is celibate must make a commitment to developing a love that is deeply personal as well as universal in scope. 
 
“Intimacy involves being present to the other with transparency and trust.” (141)

And so the challenge is to articulate a spirituality of celibacy that is truly loving of God, truly embracing all of life, and which involves real intimacy.

I’ll try to write on this in future posts.


Previous posts on celibacy

“The Joy of Love for Celibates,” October 22, 2015

“The Promise of Celibacy,” July 3, 2016 https://hermanojuancito.blogspot.com/2016/07/promise-of-celibacy.html

“Celibacy and Holy Orders I: Some misunderstandings of the celibate deacon,” January 13, 2020

“Celibacy and Holy Orders II: Celibacy and Latin Rite Catholic priests: an exception for the Amazon? Why permanent deacons probably aren’t enough?” January 16, 2020

“Celibacy and Holy Orders III: The married deacon’s challenge to the celibate deacons,” Janaury 17, 2020.

“Celibacy and Holy Orders IV: Two new books for celibate clerics,” January 31, 2020

Friday, January 31, 2020

Celibacy and Holy Orders IV


Two new books for celibate clerics

I just finished reading two books that might be helpful for developing a spirituality and a theology of the celibate deacon.

James Keating’s Remain in Me: Holy Orders, Prayer, and Ministry is a masterful and challenging work on the spirituality of the cleric. He writes for the most part to married deacons and celibate priests, but much of what he has written has proved helpful for this celibate deacon.

Two quotes especially struck me:

“There is only one reasons God calls a man to celibacy: he wants the man’s full attention, so that he can satisfy the man’s need for love.” (Kindle location 1525)

“The mysticism of celibacy proclaims that in binding one’s life to God’s infinitely generous love, a man gives himself away with universal love for the “many” (see Matt 26:28.)” (Kindle location 1527)

My one concern is that there is almost nothing specifically addressed to the celibate permanent deacon but he refers to a few pages he wrote on the celibate deacon in The Heart of the Diaconate, which I had found very helpful.

 But I yearn for more – especially in terms of the celibate deacon who is wholly involved in a non-church job. I work full-time in a parish and so his remarks on celibacy for priests are very helpful, but I wonder if we need more reflection on the celibate permanent deacon in the world.

Luanne Zurlo’s Single for a Greater Purpose: A Hidden Joy in the Catholic Church might provide a few clues for at least part of this. Her work is really an apologia vitae for the “dedicated single,” the lay celibate who has no connection to a religious order or secular institute and is not a consecrated virgin. The first seven chapters are a thoughtful reflection on the vocation of the celibate. The remaining chapters are focused on her vocation as a "dedicated single."

One sentence, though, got me wondering about how this might refer to us celibate deacons.
“…someone called to a dedicated-single vocation is called to the lay state. And the laity are called to work in the world, as compared with the clergy or traditional religious orders, who are called to bring Christ to the world from outside the world.” (Kindle location 1435)

Where is the permanent deacon in this? Many, if not most, permanent deacons are called to work in the world and sanctify it from within. Their “worldly” jobs are places where they show the gospel. Yet, they bring this world with them when they assist at the Eucharist as deacons. Do they not, in some sense, break the duality of the world and the church, the workplace and the altar?

This is an aspect of the diaconate that needs to be more developed, both in terms of spirituality and practice.

Thursday, January 16, 2020

Celibacy and Holy Orders II

2. Celibacy and Latin Rite Catholic priests: 
      an exception for the Amazon?
Why permanent deacons probably aren’t enough?

Before proceeding to more reflections on the celibate deacon, I'd like to share some thoughts on clerical celibacy in general.

Celibacy for priests is a discipline of the Latin Rite of the Roman Catholic Church that dates back several hundred years. It is not a doctrine.

Catholics of the Eastern Rites generally do not insist on celibacy for priests. One exception has been in the United States. When this was enforced, in the late nineteenth century, I believe, it led to an exodus of some Eastern Rite Catholics to the Orthodox Church.

In recent years, under Pope Benedict, married Anglican clergy (and some other Protestant clergy) have been granted permission to be ordained priests after having become Catholics.

Recently, the Synod of the Amazon raised the issue of ordination of married viri probati, men who had proved themselves as worthy candidates for the priesthood. As I see it, this is a specific request to respond to a specific need and not a call for the abolition of celibacy in the Catholic Latin Rite.

The Amazon, as certain other parts of the world, suffers from the lack of priests who can serve the people sacramentally. In these areas there are often lay people and women religious who serve the people. Some of them have the canonical authority to baptize and preside at marriages.

In Honduras we have tens of thousands of Delegates of the Word who preside at Celebrations of the Word in their disparate villages. In Honduras there 298 municipalities (each with their municipal center), 3730 aldeas (villages), and 30,591 caseríos (hamlets). There are about 530 priests in the country, about 60% diocesan priests.

Numbers don’t tell the whole story. In our diocese, according to 2017 statistics, there are about 17,780 Catholics per priest in 48 parishes. In contrast, the archdiocese of Dubuque, according to 2016 statistics, has 202 priests, with about 979 Catholics per priest.

But, most of our parishes are rural with very poor roads and many remote villages. For example, our parish, with one priest, covers four municipal centers and about 45 villages and hamlets, most with an organized church community. But some of the villages are over an hour by four-wheel drive vehicle from the town of Dulce Nombre de Copán where the pastor lives. We have one priest, one deacon (me), and this year we will have a seminarian in his pastoral year. There are also four women religious in Dulce Nombre some of whom help out in some parish activities. In our diocese, there are several parishes with over one hundred rural villages; a few of them have two priests.

Almost all the villages have one or more catechists as well as one or more delegates of the Word, who lead Sunday celebrations. We also have about 30 extraordinary ministers of Communion. Their main ministry is to visit the sick. They also assist in the distribution of Communion at Masses and bring communion to rural villages at Celebrations of the Word with Communion. But there twenty-one villages that don’t have a communion minister. I try to visit one of them each Sunday for a Celebration of the Word with Communion.

One of the reasons given for the ordination of married viri probati in the Amazon reason is the lack of access to the Eucharist.

I think it is more complicated than that. I’ll speak from my experience.

Our pastor hardly sits still. He tries to visit every village at least once every two months. At times he has two to three Masses on weekdays. On the weekends, he has Sunday (and Saturday night Masses) in at least six different places throughout the parish. And then there are the funerals, the village feast day celebrations, marriages, confessions, and visits to confess and anoint the sick.

As a deacon I help with some funerals and have had some baptisms and weddings outside of Masses. However, most baptisms and weddings here are during Mass. But there are complications even here. 

To receive a sacrament worthily one should be in the state of grace. Godparents also should be in the state of grace. Thus, god parents at baptisms and the couples seeking the sacrament of matrimony often want to (and should) have access to confession.

But it’s even more complicated here in Honduras.

In some parts of Latin America there have been very strict understandings of the conditions to receive the Eucharist. Some have thought that one must go to confession each time before going to communion or, at least, in the last month or two.

We are trying to do catechesis on this, understanding the obligation to confess mortal sins but helping people to distinguish types of sins as well as reasons for not needing to go to confession each time I receives Communion.

I have had two different experiences that might help throw a different light on the possibility of married priests in places like the Amazon. Deacons are not enough.

A few years ago I went to bring Communion to the mother of one of the delegates of a remote village. His parents live far from the village center. The first time I went, I took Communion to them on horseback on Good Friday after the Celebration of the Passion.


In addition, the day after my ordination, I took them communion walking quite a distance with their son, Juan Ángel, who was a delegate and was in formation to become an extraordinary minister of communion. (He died a few months later of pneumonia. I wrote about him here.)


The mother had serious complications from surgery and couldn’t walk very far, not even to the church to go to confession when the priest came. We visited and then began to pray.

I asked if she wanted to receive communion. She said she hadn’t been to confession for a long time, since before her surgery a few years before. I asked her if she had killed someone. No, she said. I then asked if she had slept with anyone except her husband. Of course not. Then, the clincher: I asked her if she had denied God. A definitive no! Then she told how she prayed each morning and asked God for forgiveness. I then explained a bit about sin, confession, and communion. I told her that we would go on with the prayer and when it was time for communion, she could let me know what she wanted to do.

When the time came, she received communion. I feel humbled before such faith and such devotion to the Eucharist.

She eventually got better and was able to get to confession. But I didn’t want to deny her the encounter with the Eucharistic Lord because she couldn’t get to confession and probably had not committed a mortal sin.

A few years before, the pastor was out of town, visiting his family for a week. I got a call from a different distant village to visit a young woman who was dying. No priest was available and so I went and prayed with her. She had an infant, about six months old, and was living with the father.

What to do? We prayed. She was very attentive. I didn’t feel that I could give her the Eucharist but I place the pyx with the Eucharist on her chest and we prayed. She died a few days later and I went for the funeral. I believe that she was reconciled with God and I felt that she was not comforted and strengthened by the reception of the Eucharist.

Deacons, religious sisters and brothers, and extraordinary ministers of Communion can bring the Eucharist to the sick and dying, but many also want the grace of the sacrament of Reconciliation. I continually come upon these situations and the pastor will often make a trip to confess and anoint the sick and dying.

The opportunity to receive the grace of the sacrament of Reconciliation is therefore another question to consider.

Thus I am very sympathetic to the proposal of the Synod of the Amazon to ordain viri probati. This should not undermine the ministry of women religious, lay pastoral workers, and deacons, but could enhance the life of faith of people who live at the margins of society. It would not be a change of church law but a response to serious pastoral needs in many parts of the world of the poor.

I am not sure that it would make sense to extend this to the whole church, not even to Central America, but I think it should be carefully considered.

I have many more thoughts on celibacy and holy orders, but since the proposal from the Synod of the Amazon is a current issue, I thought it important to begin here.

My thoughts on priestly celibacy in general are more complicated and I need time and prayerful discernment before I write anything more. But I hope to write more soon on the spirituality of the celibate permanent deacon.